Musings From A Therapist
“I Want to Help… But My Brain’s on Fire”: ADHD, Relationships and Pulling Your Weight Without Burning Out
There’s no sugarcoating it—your brain is basically a browser with 172 tabs open, and at least four of them are playing music. You’re thinking about the thing you forgot at the grocery store, that text you didn’t respond to three days ago, the new thing you’re super into this week, and oh look—a squirrel.
If I Don’t Do It Myself, It Doesn’t Get Done - His Side
I am the ADHD-brained husband who wants to make sure he’s doing right by her and our household but can’t seem to notice the things that need to be done (at the appropriate time and without instruction).
Interestingly, the very request for this composition sparked a thought about the subject for me.
If I Don’t Do It Myself, It Doesn’t Get Done - Her Side
There’s a special kind of exhaustion that comes from carrying the weight of an entire household on your back. Not just the dishes, the laundry and the grocery list—but the invisible labor of remembering it all. Keeping track of school forms, scheduling doctor’s appointments and knowing exactly when we’re about to run out of toilet paper.
The Power of A Girl’s Weekend Getaway
I cannot begin to tell you how wonderful it was to be away Sun-Tues this week. If anything good came from Covid, it was the start of Girl’s Weekend.
The Mother Load
As we were dishing out consequences for my daughter’s less than desirable behaviors at the table and the ticking by of the minutes, I made note to my husband (in private) that part of this was on him because he didn’t follow the schedule. This turned into a bit of a disagreement, in which my husband accused ME of being the issue, that things were just fine until I came home and he was only 9 minutes late getting her to bed. Well, pin a rose on your nose!