Intensive EMDR Therapy for Women Experiencing Infertility

The Roadmap of Your Life Has Been Ripped to Shreds

You have no idea what you’re supposed to do now.

The dream you’ve had since you were a little girl, carefully dressing, feeding and caring for your baby dolls, appears to be slipping through your fingers and you don’t know how to stop it.

There are a million different thoughts running through your head.

It’s so hard to focus.

• What’s wrong with me?

• Does/Can my partner still love me?

• How am I not to blame?

• What’s wrong with my body? Why does it hate me? (The feelings are surely mutual.)

• What is my role in life if I’m not able to be a mom?

• How do I face all of our friends and family who were just as excited as we were?

• What did I do to deserve this? Did I do something to cause this?

This feels like a really bad dream that you can’t wake up from.

And yet you know it’s not a dream. You’re numb.

The questions and worries continue to swirl through your head as you try to make sense of all of it. The problem is that there is no sense that can be made of this. It’s a horrible thing that’s happening to you.

Things have always been a little harder for you. Nothing has ever been handed to you. You’ve had to put in the work. You’ve worked hard not to be resentful of it, it’s just how it’s always been. You really had hoped that this would be different - that all of your dreams would come true.

You hate feeling like this. So sad and like “less than”. Your whole life you went to church and heard about how women are meant to have children. You believed those stories and knew that one day you’d get to be a mom and everything would make sense.

What’s wrong with me!?

Deep down you know the answer [the one you don’t want to hear] is nothing. Nothing is wrong with you.

But this experience has changed you. You feel raw and reeling with questions and self-doubt. You’re angry, sad, depressed and resentful. As much as you try to pretend that you’re okay and moving forward, most days it’s hard to get out of bed. Everywhere you look you see women with children or a pregnant woman rubbing her baby bump. It makes your heart hurt. You just want to hide under the covers.

What you’re feeling...it’s okay.

I don’t say this to you as a Therapist.

I say this to you as a woman and one who has gone through this, too.

The negative thoughts you have about yourself and the situation don’t have to be true…actually they aren’t true at all.

There’s no magic pill or wave of a magic wand that’s going to make this better. It’s a grief process and you can’t speed your way through that, unfortunately. But the road can be a little less lonely when you have some support along the way.

Allow me to guide you along this journey. I know first hand how excruciating it can be and how everything you thought you knew becomes one big, fat question mark. Together we can get you through this and begin the road to healing.